Shopping and Relationships - The Corelation
Am gonna be kinda killed for writing this... thank goodness the blog readership is small... but yes, I think I've finally figured this one out without a beer session.
Was out with the gals shopping for a good 6 hours the other day (remind me never to be so dumb again), and yes, we were looking for a white skirt. This took us all of 6 hours... it was in one shop, and to the next, and to the next... looking for the perfect skirt! Said skirt had to be of a specific length, colour, material, not to mention cutting and fit. Thankfully, we managed to find it close to the end of the shopping hours, after seeing almost every other white shirt in Singapore.
Obviously, the only buy that day wasn't a white skirt... between the three of us, we managed to pick up a pair of shoes (those ballet pumps thingys that are so the rage these days), one blue / green skirt, a turquoise top, brownish pants, jeans, another green top and yes... a white skirt. Not that much for a whole six hours in the crowd, really. I thought there was quite a bit of discipline shown.
Now I digress... the co-relation... well... we were looking for the perfect skirt right? That's how people look for the perfect relationship. They try, it doesn't fit, we move on again... and again... and again... and in the event that something somewhat fits (like the pair of jeans), but there is one criteria that doesn't quite make it (the length), we alter it to cater to us! So, assuming, that people have the same attitude about shopping as to relationships, i.e. we won't buy till it fits or until I can alter it so that it fits ME... no wonder that there are so many failed relationships / marriages right?
Guess what I feel is that we all generally think about changing our circumstances, our other halves to fit us. Perhaps, the lesson being that relationships, unlike shopping, should be about working together to find a fit, rather than a one sided pursuit of perfection?
Was out with the gals shopping for a good 6 hours the other day (remind me never to be so dumb again), and yes, we were looking for a white skirt. This took us all of 6 hours... it was in one shop, and to the next, and to the next... looking for the perfect skirt! Said skirt had to be of a specific length, colour, material, not to mention cutting and fit. Thankfully, we managed to find it close to the end of the shopping hours, after seeing almost every other white shirt in Singapore.
Obviously, the only buy that day wasn't a white skirt... between the three of us, we managed to pick up a pair of shoes (those ballet pumps thingys that are so the rage these days), one blue / green skirt, a turquoise top, brownish pants, jeans, another green top and yes... a white skirt. Not that much for a whole six hours in the crowd, really. I thought there was quite a bit of discipline shown.
Now I digress... the co-relation... well... we were looking for the perfect skirt right? That's how people look for the perfect relationship. They try, it doesn't fit, we move on again... and again... and again... and in the event that something somewhat fits (like the pair of jeans), but there is one criteria that doesn't quite make it (the length), we alter it to cater to us! So, assuming, that people have the same attitude about shopping as to relationships, i.e. we won't buy till it fits or until I can alter it so that it fits ME... no wonder that there are so many failed relationships / marriages right?
Guess what I feel is that we all generally think about changing our circumstances, our other halves to fit us. Perhaps, the lesson being that relationships, unlike shopping, should be about working together to find a fit, rather than a one sided pursuit of perfection?
posted by chiarezza at
8:41 AM
2 Comments:
Hey Hey, what's so dumb about shopping 6 hours with your good friends?? We hardly do that anyway. And may I remind you that shopping that day was meant for new year clothes, not just for the white skirt. It just happens that I know what's on the top of my shopping list. Heh
And come to think of it, the person who initiated the shopping did not turn up.
Hee... :) knew I was gonna get whacked. And I don't really think that the person who initiated the shopping is gonna read this, so unless you direct her to it, she's not gonna feel the suan, :)
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